Your wedding day is one of the most magical and memorable moments of your life, but let’s be honest—being in front of the camera for hours on end can feel daunting, especially if you’re someone who shies away from having your photo taken. As a wedding photographer specializing in LGBTIQ+ celebrations, I’ve worked with countless couples who start out feeling camera-shy but end up radiating confidence and joy in their photos. The secret? A little preparation, a lot of trust, and some easy techniques to help you relax and enjoy the experience.
In this guide, I’ll share practical tips to help you and your partner feel at ease in front of the camera so you can focus on what truly matters—celebrating your love.
1. Choose the Right Photographer
One of the most important steps to feeling comfortable in front of the camera is choosing a photographer who makes you feel safe, seen, and celebrated. Look for someone who aligns with your values, understands your story, and has experience working with LGBTIQ+ couples.
A good photographer will take the time to get to know you, listen to your concerns, and create a space where you feel free to be yourselves. This is why I always schedule a pre-wedding consultation with my couples. It’s a chance to build trust, talk through any nerves, and ensure we’re on the same page about the style and vision for your wedding photos.
2. Schedule an Engagement Shoot
Engagement shoots are like a dress rehearsal for your wedding photos. They’re an opportunity to get comfortable in front of the camera and build a connection with your photographer before the big day.
Many of my couples tell me that their engagement shoot completely transformed how they felt about being photographed. By the time the wedding rolled around, they knew what to expect and felt much more at ease. Plus, you’ll end up with a beautiful collection of photos that celebrate your love story in a more casual setting!
3. Focus on Each Other
When the camera is pointed at you, it’s easy to overthink things: “What do I do with my hands?” “Am I smiling weirdly?” “Do I look okay?” The trick to overcoming this is to shift your focus away from the camera and onto each other.
Think of your partner as your anchor. Look into their eyes, hold their hand, or share an inside joke. When you focus on the connection you share, your natural chemistry will shine through in the photos. I often encourage couples to whisper sweet or silly things to each other during a shoot—it’s a simple way to create authentic moments of laughter and love.
4. Embrace Movement
Stiff poses can feel unnatural and make you more self-conscious. Instead, embrace movement! Walk hand-in-hand, twirl each other around, lean in for a kiss, or dance like nobody’s watching.
I love capturing candid moments where couples are moving and interacting naturally. Movement not only helps you relax but also adds a sense of energy and authenticity to your photos.
5. Practice Mindful Breathing
Nervous energy can creep in when you’re in front of the camera, but a few deep breaths can work wonders for calming your nerves. Before your photos start, take a moment to close your eyes, inhale deeply through your nose, hold for a few seconds, and exhale slowly through your mouth.
I also like to remind my couples to take a deep breath whenever they’re feeling overwhelmed during the shoot. It’s a small but powerful way to recenter and bring a sense of calm to the moment.
6. Wear Something That Makes You Feel Amazing
Confidence starts with feeling good about yourself, so choose wedding attire that makes you feel comfortable and fabulous. Whether it’s a sharp suit, a flowing gown, or something entirely unique to your style, wear what feels like you.
If you’re planning a pre-wedding shoot, pick outfits that reflect your personalities and make you feel confident. When you’re comfortable in what you’re wearing, it will show in your photos.
7. Trust the Process
It’s natural to feel a little nervous, especially if you’re not used to being photographed. But trust me—your photographer knows how to bring out the best in you.
A professional photographer understands lighting, angles, and timing to ensure you look incredible in every shot. Trust their guidance, relax, and remember that it’s their job to make you look amazing!
If there’s something specific you’re worried about—whether it’s your smile, your posture, or anything else—don’t hesitate to share your concerns with your photographer. A good photographer will listen and work with you to highlight your best features.
8. Create a Comfortable Environment
Your wedding day should be filled with joy and positivity, so surround yourselves with people who make you feel loved and supported. Whether it’s your bridal party, family, or chosen family, having a crew that cheers you on will help you feel more at ease.
Music can also do wonders for setting the mood. I often encourage couples to play their favorite tunes during portrait sessions—it’s a simple way to create a fun and relaxed atmosphere.
9. Let Go of Perfection
One of the most beautiful things about wedding photography is capturing the real, unfiltered moments of your day. The laughter, the tears, the stolen glances—these are the memories that matter most.
Don’t stress about looking “perfect” in every shot. Your love, your joy, and your unique connection are what make your photos truly special. Embrace the imperfections—they’re part of your story.
10. Remember Why You’re Here
At the end of the day, your wedding photos are about celebrating your love. They’re a reflection of the bond you share, the journey you’ve taken together, and the promise you’re making to each other.
When you focus on what truly matters—your partner and the incredible life you’re building together—the camera becomes less intimidating.
A Personal Note
As someone who works with LGBTIQ+ couples, I understand that being in front of the camera can feel vulnerable, especially if you’ve had past experiences where you didn’t feel seen or represented. I want you to know that I’m here to create a space where you can be your authentic selves—a space that celebrates your love, your story, and your journey.
I’ve been in your shoes, and I know how important it is to feel comfortable and supported during such an intimate experience. My commitment to you goes beyond taking beautiful photos; it’s about making sure you feel safe, confident, and celebrated every step of the way.
Final Thoughts
Feeling relaxed in front of the camera is all about preparation, trust, and focusing on what truly matters. By choosing the right photographer, embracing your unique connection, and letting go of perfection, you can create photos that are not only stunning but also authentically you.
Remember, your wedding day is about celebrating your love story in all its beauty, diversity, and uniqueness. Trust the process, enjoy the experience, and know that your photographer is there to capture every joyful, emotional, and unforgettable moment.
Your love deserves to be seen, celebrated, and remembered—exactly as it is.
